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Being the owner of another small Bama site, I completely understand what you are saying here. It's ok to attempt to put your site out there, and when asked to remove it, you should politely comply, like I did.
But if someone is pm'ing your members to come to their site,
a) what kind of person are the people doing this?
b) what kind of site community will that make up?
and
c) pm'ing other sites members is lame. You might as well call a guys wife on the phone and ask if she can come over.
I stand behind your thoughts 100% on this, please report anyone who has done this to me, username, email, ip addresses, etc, so I can ban them from ever getting to my site. I will report the same to you if I find out anyone doing this.
RTR guys