I was an IT Operation Manager for a large grocery chain in the South and the old saying by the Retail Managers was
"don't stick your pecker in the checker"...................could be applied to softball as well
If you do, paper or plastic is a easy choice it would seem.
:rolf:
on a more serious note...
i can't begin to imagine what the head coach was going through. on the one hand, he had his girls that he had to think about. sure we make fun of the whole "auburn family" thing; but him thinking of his players like that isn't necessarily a bad thing. from the article, it seems he loved them all like family and that he'd do anything for them. then, he had his real family. his son, his own flesh and blood, was accused of something that would make most dads go absolutely bat-shit crazy with rage if their daughter was the victim if anything like that. so there was a need for protection factor there when it came to his son. and i can't fault that. so i can't begin to imagine what he was going through and feeling. do you back your players, your girls, your "family"? or do you back your own son, your flesh and blood, your "real" family?
if that'd been me, and it'd been my son who'd been accused of such things, and i later found out they were true, i'd have a very difficult time trying not to get him to come clean...no matter the cost. i love my family more than anything else on this planet....ANYTHING! but i value honesty so much that i would expect any of them to be honest with themselves and everyone else, even if it meant hurting them in the process. without honestly, there can be no trust. and i trust my family more than i trust anyone else on this planet. and i fully expect them to be completely honest with me, even if it means my feelings will be hurt, or i may get in some serious, even legal, trouble. and i hope i could be completely honest with them, as well.
so i can understand if the head coach wavered a bit when he found out, or heard the rumors, whichever came first, and didn't want to just throw his son to the wolves. he was protecting his son. he was being a father. but i'm sure he was a bit torn when weighing that against his girls on the team.
and about the one girl who was "ostracized"... my thinking is they did that because it broke up the harmony the team had at the time, and they didn't want anything messing with that and the things they were trying to accomplish that season. but, in my opinion, they chose wrong. they chose glory and fame over a teammates troubles. and that should never even be a contest.
