🏈 Alabama LB Ryan Anderson arrested on domestic violence charges

[planomateo]

From both my experience and some research I've done on the issue of domestic violence, reporting tends to be skewed in favor of women. I say this because little respect is given to males who report being abused by their female partners. Therefore, men tend to self-censor such instances. This male tendency leads some women, particularly those from abusive childhoods, to exploit men's hesitance to report their abuse as well as their hesitance to match female aggression reciprocally. The result is lots of women abuse men, and lots of men say nothing about it and do nothing about it until they snap. Obviously, no one justifies violence, but equality requires us to acknowledge it equally between the sexes and praise the men who report being abused instead of shaming them. Shaming them only makes retaliation that much more tempting and "manly." In low-income households especially, you see the worst display of conflict resolution skills and simultaneously the narrowest understanding of what it means to be "a man."

And off my soap box I go.

I'm gonna shame a dude if he's getting physically abused by a women, you can count on that.

 

[rick4bama]

:smh:

 

[TerryP]

I'm gonna shame a dude if he's getting physically abused by a women, you can count on that.

Take ten guys, how do you think those ten will react? Do you think five will physically react towards the female?

 

[UAgrad93]

^^^^ Given me the age range of 16-24 and I would say more than five react toward the female and not her vehicle. ^^^^ We were and probably still are to an extent, "you can hit me but don't you dare touch my vehicle!" A lot like the old adage, " you can talk about my Dad if you want, but if you talk about my Momma, I'm whipping your ass!"

 

[musso]

A new example of the point I raised in this thread:

Jonathan Taylor accuser recants story, is arrested

 

[musso]

Dude... wtf?! You just went off on this huge rant about low-income this and low-income that and blah, blah, blah when the story is that they got into an argument and essentially dented each others vehicles. They were both arrested, both will have the charges dropped, far from domestic violence. Read before getting on that soap box next time bruh, at least you didnt go into a conspiracy theory this time

Okay ... first of all, I did read the article before posting. And I read the subsequent comments too. My post, while off the beaten path a bit, was in the same vein of the previous comments that criticized the headline and the [alleged] woman's choice to escalate the dispute by damaging Anderson's property. If the confrontation indeed unfolded as reported, it serves as an example of what I posted. Anderson ought to have gone to the police or some suitable campus authority to resolve the damage his girlfriend inflicted to his car, but instead he chose to take retaliatory matters in his own hands. What happens? The media runs an unfair and misleading headline. Men are the first to blame in domestic disputes but also the first to shame if they attempt to resolve domestic disputes peacefully. It's an unfair double-standard.

 

[musso]

Take ten guys, how do you think those ten will react? Do you think five will physically react towards the female?

Exactly. This is why I'm indirectly taking up for Anderson.

 

[musso]

I'm gonna shame a dude if he's getting physically abused by a women, you can count on that.

I suppose I'll pass on this teaching opportunity.

 

[riz]

Pfft.

 

[planomateo]

LOL.

No long winded dissertation?