🏈 What's a brother to do?

LBS

LBS

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Aight. So the Wife is playing a role in the church's Christmas production, something that she has been spending one evening a week with now for around 6 weeks. Then last night she learns that they have "Dinner Performances" where they serve dinner at the show and charge $15/head as a way to raise money. So she tells me that she bought an entire tables worth of seats so that our immediate family and her parents could all sit together. All great, except she bought the table for SATURDAY, DECMEBER 4TH.

My Pros and Cons list is has everything but Apple Pie on one side (and that very well could be dessert), and Alabama football alone on the other side.

So my question is what words do I use to break the bad news to her?
 
I feel for you. That is a tough spot. Generally speaking, I feel that most of this stuff women plan in the fall is almost a kind of "test" to gauge how important they are to the men in their life. I always tell men to put their foot down early and let them know where the lines will be drawn. Health and Family emergencies always take first priority of course.

For the game:
1. She did all this without asking you.
2. She chose the evening performance when it sounds as if they may have been other options.
3. What will you remember years from now. A Christmas performance or the game?
5. This play is important for her but this game is also important to you.
6. Can you honestly enjoy the play while thinking of how the game is going the whole time?

Go to the play:
1. Can you tape the game and watch it later?
2. I will tell you now that if you don't go you will be screwed for a long time. She bought an ENTIRE TABLE at $15 dollars a plate and is basically telling people they have to come watch her that night. Holy Crap! That is a big step out in my book and shows it must be VERY important to her.
3. You could go this time but you better start putting your foot down in the future and establishing a level of importance or this could turn into a problem. Trust me, plenty of men go through the same thing you do. Its all how you handle it.

Good Luck!
 
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Nate said:
diamonds work well for now, in the future make sure she understands Alabama Football and gets it :)
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You know Nate, that is what is shocking. She knows football better than most my buddies, and is a HUGE fan of the Tide. This is a woman who can break out the Pros and Cons of both a 4-3 Defense and a 3-4. She has explained to a guy I know what teams were trying to do in using a Spread Offense (and she was right). She's pretty much perfect. Except that she simply did not realize that there was a confict and drug the whole Crimson Family in with her...so I have to be careful because she already feels bad.

Diamonds; there's another trap. She and I have talked about going bowling with the Tide. If I do diamonds that plan is shot.
 
Simple. You make sure that someone else's spouse for the play is a huge Bama fan also, so you're not the only one. My wife's Christmas party is that night. Her bosses husbands is a huge fan and isn't going. Bam! I'm off the hook.
 
Victory said:
I feel for you. That is a tough spot. Generally speaking, I feel that most of this stuff women plan in the fall is almost a kind of "test" to gauge how important they are to the men in their life. I always tell men to put their foot down early and let them know where the lines will be drawn. Health and Family emergencies always take first priority of course.

For the game:
1. She did all this without asking you.
2. She chose the evening performance when it sounds as if they may have been other options.
3. What will you remember years from now. A Christmas performance or the game?
5. This play is important for her but this game is also important to you.
6. Can you honestly enjoy the play while thinking of how the game is going the whole time?

Go to the play:
1. Can you tape the game and watch it later?
2. I will tell you now that if you don't go you will be screwed for a long time. She bought an ENTIRE TABLE at $15 dollars a plate and is basically telling people they have to come watch her that night. Holy Crap! That is a big step out in my book and shows it must be VERY important to her.
3. You could go this time but you better start putting your foot down in the future and establishing a level of importance or this could turn into a problem. Trust me, plenty of men go through the same thing you do. Its all how you handle it.

Good Luck!
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I've pondered about recording it, but considering that we live in Florida I'm guessing the chances that I can spend an evening with a few hundred Floridians with some jackhole spoiling it for the rest of us is slim. Heck, even a deaf man could read the results of the game on the faces around him.

Putting my foot down is the last thing that I thought I would have to do. She knows the story well about how my Sister had to reschedule her wedding because she had selected the Saturday of the Iron Bowl.

BTW I meant to type SATURDAY the 5th, vice the 4th.
 
Go to the play. She's put her heart and soul into it. It's not a "test", it's life. I've missed many ball games doing things with my family (like helping coach my little one's football team the last two seasons, going to family gatherings, etc.), and I've missed a few family events over my last nine years as a season ticket holder. I've never regretted having missed an Alabama game because I was doing something of value or doing something to support my family. Missing out on something that matters to those we love has a way of lingering in your mind.

Snag some scores on your phone and watch the replay of the game. Watch the play live.

Regarding the diamonds/bowl game thing, tell her she means more to you than Bama football (act like you mean it - practice if you have to). You won't need the diamonds, and you can order the bowl tix.

RTR,

Tim
 
It Takes Eleven said:
Go to the play

Snag some scores on your phone and watch the replay of the game. Watch the play live.

Regarding the diamonds/bowl game thing, tell her she means more to you than Bama football (act like you mean it - practice if you have to). You won't need the diamonds, and you can order the bowl tix.

RTR,

Tim
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Sound like good sound advice..........maybe he can score points for the future.
 
It Takes Eleven said:
Go to the play. She's put her heart and soul into it. It's not a "test", it's life. I've missed many ball games doing things with my family (like helping coach my little one's football team the last two seasons, going to family gatherings, etc.), and I've missed a few family events over my last nine years as a season ticket holder. I've never regretted having missed an Alabama game because I was doing something of value or doing something to support my family. Missing out on something that matters to those we love has a way of lingering in your mind.

Snag some scores on your phone and watch the replay of the game. Watch the play live.

Regarding the diamonds/bowl game thing, tell her she means more to you than Bama football (act like you mean it - practice if you have to). You won't need the diamonds, and you can order the bowl tix.

RTR,

Tim
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I completely agree with this. This sounds like a big deal to her and she needs to be the most important thing in your life. Go to the play and be happy to do it. You'll be glad you did. I also like the idea of checking scores, etc., on your phone. Heck, you may even be able to get to a TV in time for the fourth quarter anyway.
 
I have to say, this does suck. My son had a camp-out the weekend of the Bama-UT game the year of the 300 overtimes. I missed the game, but my son and I had a great time, and I don't regret it a bit.
 
It Takes Eleven said:
Go to the play. She's put her heart and soul into it. It's not a "test", it's life. I've missed many ball games doing things with my family (like helping coach my little one's football team the last two seasons, going to family gatherings, etc.), and I've missed a few family events over my last nine years as a season ticket holder. I've never regretted having missed an Alabama game because I was doing something of value or doing something to support my family. Missing out on something that matters to those we love has a way of lingering in your mind.

Snag some scores on your phone and watch the replay of the game. Watch the play live.

Regarding the diamonds/bowl game thing, tell her she means more to you than Bama football (act like you mean it - practice if you have to). You won't need the diamonds, and you can order the bowl tix.

RTR,

Tim
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I agree with you Tim. I still hate that I missed certain games, but guess what? Alabama went on without me just fine.;)

I missed almost this entire season to watch my 3 kids play football and cheer every Sat. If I can do it I know you can too, LBS.:lol:

If you haven't had to miss one yet (regardless of being single, married, with kids, without kids, etc...) you'll have to at some point. Things happen. You can only prevent so much.

LBS, have a great time with your family. Just think, if we win you can come back and watch it all knowing Alabama will win in the end.
 

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