| LIFE I'm not married. Ya'll know this. But, gotta ask. If you tell a wife "do this, but don't tell your husband." Or, flip it, "don't tell your wife."

[Krimson]

I get this. But I don't buy it.

Avoiding perception. The people that know me don't have a perception: they know who I am. And, if they don't? Fuck 'em.

Let me leave you with an analogy. My mother has NEVER

It's not about outside perception to me it's about having boundaries that prevent any issues between friends. Do i believe my best friend would do anything with my wife? No I don't, trust him a lot but is there a scenario where they could both screw up? Maybe. So to me it's about not putting me or her in a position where that scenario could occur. I've had wives of associates come on to me and have given in when I was young, single, having a few and my morals weren't so great. To me it's kinda like the good fences good neighbors analogy. I avoid the possibility.

I don't go to bars alone because women and alcohol are 2 of my weaknesses. I don't avoid bars or movie theaters because of outside perception like your mom, I avoid them to help keep me from doing something stupid.

 

[Sgt. Lincoln Osiris]

I somewhat agree with you. Let me throw this one back at you. Would you trust me, alone, with your "significant other?" All the while knowing how I respect the sanctity of marriage? Or, a relationship?

My friends do.

Example: I was asked to help a friends wife recently, a pastors' wife of all people, on a Fossil ™ display. A lady remarked that she thought we were a happily married couple; in front of him. He laughed...just said, "that's who they are."

Ask @It Takes Eleven I goof off with everybody ... no intentions at all. Well, maybe a laugh.

Darren, I believe I can honestly say I don't look at gender any more than I do skin color.

NOW, that being said. IF she's single...I might be a whore dog on any given night.

As an occasional one-of situation of necessity?

Absolutely.

But if a "close friendship" develops out of that and y'all are having lunches once or more a week and texting every day (my wife has the same value set as me with this, so she'd never let it go here, just an "if" scenario), ima put the kibosh on that.

 

[Sgt. Lincoln Osiris]

Talk about coincidence.

That dude is saying what SHE wanted to hear.

Notice her "ohhhh good answer!"

When in reality, if she did offer a hookup, he'd already be undressing at "I think we should have", before she could finish the word "se*"

 

[TerryP]

As an occasional one-of situation of necessity?

Absolutely.

But if a "close friendship" develops out of that and y'all are having lunches once or more a week and texting every day (my wife has the same value set as me with this, so she'd never let it go here, just an "if" scenario), ima put the kybosh on that.

Let me go back to Dustin here. We were "shooting the shit" last week and his wife mentioned the "Vicious Biscuit." I told her I've been there a few times...we should go. We are, Thursday. Dustin has to work...his wife, and his daughter, and I are going to "pig out."

Nothing more. Nothing less.

There is distrust in society. I get that. I just don't deal with that in my "circle." I, literally, can not think of a person that's married that would not go to lunch with me, or grab coffee, or a drink...and their husbands would bat an eye. I'm not cut that way.

 

[TerryP]

When in reality, if she did offer a hookup, he'd already be undressing at "It think we should have", before she could finish the word "se*"

Depends. Is she with a friend of mine?