🏈 Dabo Sweeny's Dad passes

[psychojoe]

passed away this past Friday, and they are burying him today. I am posting this because I have not seen it anywhere else, and Dabo is one of our own. Prayers for Dabo and his family.

 

[PhillyGirl]

Damn. Hate to hear that. Sending positive thoughts towards him and his family at this time. RIP Papa Sweeny, you raised a good kid.

 

[It Takes Eleven]

Prayers for the family.

I didn't realize his Dad was in the picture growing up. I remembered his Mom actually lived with him a short time on campus because she had no where to live.

 

[bamaledge]

Damn, hate to hear that. RIP Big Dabo.
I'm 52, which makes my dad around 74 and I don't even want to think about that yet. Nowhere near ready. My dad and I have talked a little about it and I told him the same and he said, "well son, you have to start thinking about it. I won't be around forever." I still call him when I need information on some auto maintenance I can't figure out. Damn, I gotta call daddy now. Thanks.

 

[We All Bleed Crimson]

Condolences to Dabo and his family. You guys are in our prayers.

 

[psychojoe]

Prayers for the family.

I didn't realize his Dad was in the picture growing up. I remembered his Mom actually lived with him a short time on campus because she had no where to live.

Tim, as I understand the story, Dabo was on his own much earlier than most of us. He was basically homeless as a high school student. He and his dad seemed to reconcile later in life. There is a picture of him in the funeral program in the press box at a Clemson game. I had to go by my church earlier today and saw the programs.

 

[It Takes Eleven]

Damn, hate to hear that. RIP Big Dabo.
I'm 52, which makes my dad around 74 and I don't even want to think about that yet. Nowhere near ready. My dad and I have talked a little about it and I told him the same and he said, "well son, you have to start thinking about it. I won't be around forever." I still call him when I need information on some auto maintenance I can't figure out. Damn, I gotta call daddy now. Thanks.

Yeah, mine is 77 and has pancreatic cancer that's spread into his liver and lung, been going to his appointments with him and my mom. First chemo didn't help, just starting a second course, different meds this time. He's managing pretty well right now, but it's inoperable and the prognosis is what it is. We're close, and he taught me almost everything I know from an automotive and construction standpoint, and absolutely everything I know about fishing and hunting. It is and will be rough, but I'm grateful for the additional time as opposed to a sudden incident. He's in full bucket list mode now, 95 percent of them related to making sure he's smoothing the path for my mom as best as he can.

 

[psychojoe]

You have it right, Tim. Love him while you've got him.

 

[Bamabww]

Tim, sorry to hear that about your dad. Will add him and the family to our prayer list.

 

[alabama mike]

Sorry to read about Dabo's dad dying. Tim, prayers for your dad in his fight against cancer. My dad will be 83 in Oct.

 

[bamachine]

Sorry to read about Dabo's dad dying. Tim, prayers for your dad in his fight against cancer. My dad will be 83 in Oct.

Ditto on the prayers to Tim and his family. My dad turned 83 earlier this year. I am the youngest of 5 boys at 44, all 4 of my brothers were born about 2-3 years apart, 12 year break my parents got before "surprise".

 

[planomateo]

Sorry to hear @It Takes Eleven about your dad, my thoughts are with you and your family.

 

[double deuce]

My Dad was 88 and passed last January 2nd, the day after we lost.
My best friend too. I miss him bad.

 

[It Takes Eleven]

Thanks, guys.

 

[Gideon Swashbuckler]

Yeah, mine is 77 and has pancreatic cancer that's spread into his liver and lung, been going to his appointments with him and my mom. First chemo didn't help, just starting a second course, different meds this time. He's managing pretty well right now, but it's inoperable and the prognosis is what it is. We're close, and he taught me almost everything I know from an automotive and construction standpoint, and absolutely everything I know about fishing and hunting. It is and will be rough, but I'm grateful for the additional time as opposed to a sudden incident. He's in full bucket list mode now, 95 percent of them related to making sure he's smoothing the path for my mom as best as he can.

What I keep thinking about, and I don't know why, is that in a few years I will have lived longer without mine as I lived with him. Most people don't experience this. And I'm no that old.

 

[It Takes Eleven]

What I keep thinking about, and I don't know why, is that in a few years I will have lived longer without mine as I lived with him. Most people don't experience this. And I'm no that old.

Even if you've taken a different path than your folks, the parallels can be eery, disheartening, and uplifting, sometimes at the same time. I have a six week old granddaughter, at 50, the same age as when I provided my Dad with his first of three grandsons. With boys of 27, 23 and 17, I've heard myself speak the very same words my Dad spoke to me and my brother. Because I was an idiot growing up (and still am to some degree), I've been able to anticipate some things with my boys that leaves my wife just shaking her head. She'll ask, "what makes you think in a way that you can tell what they're up to?" I tell her she married an idiot who may not learn from his mistakes, but I sure do remember them.

GS, I hate you didn't see your Dad as a grandpa. It's like pulling the curtain back on the Wizard of Oz. My oldest is having a good time with this old fool these days.

RTR,

Tim

 

[Gideon Swashbuckler]

Even if you've taken a different path than your folks, the parallels can be eery, disheartening, and uplifting, sometimes at the same time. I have a six week old granddaughter, at 50, the same age as when I provided my Dad with his first of three grandsons. With boys of 27, 23 and 17, I've heard myself speak the very same words my Dad spoke to me and my brother. Because I was an idiot growing up (and still am to some degree), I've been able to anticipate some things with my boys that leaves my wife just shaking her head. She'll ask, "what makes you think in a way that you can tell what they're up to?" I tell her she married an idiot who may not learn from his mistakes, but I sure do remember them.

GS, I hate you didn't see your Dad as a grandpa. It's like pulling the curtain back on the Wizard of Oz. My oldest is having a good time with this old fool these days.

RTR,

Tim

Thank you. And if it is ok, bc I understand your father's poor prognosis from a medical standpoint. Please allow me this tidbit... I know your father is still alive but this helped me after my father died.
Moses was a great man. A father to a nation. A deliverer. A harbinger of law and order to a people. A savior. A man with a microphone to God Almighty.
My father, your father or anyone else's father as great as they maybe do not compare.
Moses died near the Jordan River short of the promise land. God, all knowing and patient, knew his people would lament his death and fear not having their leader. So he said mourn thirty days. Then cross the Jordan.

The message is to mourn. It's a natural, visceral response. But don't get so mired down in grief that it stops you from "Crossing the Jordan"--- whatever God has ordained for you. Mourn, but cross the Jordan.

I hope I haven't offended you.

 

[Bamabww]

 

[planomateo]

Very nice quote @Bamabww, that last line says it all.

 

[Destiny's Child]

Tim,

I understand what you are going through and I will be praying for you and your family. I lost my dad on May 7th 2012 he was 65 years old. He died of environmental lung cancer or lung cancer not related to smoking that is. He was a great man and my best friend for the last ten years of his life. So thankful we were able to reconcile our relationship before he got sick.

If you have the chance to be around him, look him in his eye a tell him you love him every chance you get and hug his neck. As a father of four now, I know that being a dad is hard, thankless and we all make mistakes we wish we could do over.