Hey all. I've had some time to explore some things about my own life and what my expectations are going forward over the past few weeks. Pretty deep stuff, mostly career-related, but deeper even than that.
For starters, I just turned 34, male if you haven't figured that out already, gainfully employed in the banking industry. Married, 2 kids, mortgage, a little bit of money in the bank. God has been very, very good to me, in spite of me.
So, the question I'm pondering today as I type this concerns knowing when to accept life for what it is, and when to stop looking for the next "big thing". Many of you have placed yourselves into a life you are very content with. For the most part, I suppose I am content, but I still long to do something with my life that brings me the chance to truly be me. Lately, that something has involved dabbling in stage acting, short films, and commercials. Most of this is substantially non-paying, and therefore cannot interfere with my main responsibilities. I acknowledge the fact that I can't take a "leave" from the real world to chase something I enjoy with more vigor. Perhaps in another time and place that might have worked, but not now.
The wife and I had our first child pretty early on in our lives, both of us 24. I wasn't settled in my career yet, but we both already had our college behind us, and we were working and making a decent wage. It was a shock to me, and I knew it would limit me going forward. More responsibility means less chasing dreams and less chasing tail ;D. I was reluctant to have another child because I still felt I wanted to go another direction with my career, but we decided to have another child in 2008, when the oldest was already 9. While the decision was mutual, certainly she had more motivation to have another child than myself.
So, when do you make the call to accept life for what it is, and just "be" in it? I'm never satisfied with doing "enough", and I certainly don't think I've done enough yet. I want more, and bigger. I'm not motivated by more things (bigger house, car, stuff, etc) as much as I am to find the place where I am most successful. I'm motivated by the need to feel successful. Appreciate your thoughtful, mature responses. :td:
For starters, I just turned 34, male if you haven't figured that out already, gainfully employed in the banking industry. Married, 2 kids, mortgage, a little bit of money in the bank. God has been very, very good to me, in spite of me.
So, the question I'm pondering today as I type this concerns knowing when to accept life for what it is, and when to stop looking for the next "big thing". Many of you have placed yourselves into a life you are very content with. For the most part, I suppose I am content, but I still long to do something with my life that brings me the chance to truly be me. Lately, that something has involved dabbling in stage acting, short films, and commercials. Most of this is substantially non-paying, and therefore cannot interfere with my main responsibilities. I acknowledge the fact that I can't take a "leave" from the real world to chase something I enjoy with more vigor. Perhaps in another time and place that might have worked, but not now.
The wife and I had our first child pretty early on in our lives, both of us 24. I wasn't settled in my career yet, but we both already had our college behind us, and we were working and making a decent wage. It was a shock to me, and I knew it would limit me going forward. More responsibility means less chasing dreams and less chasing tail ;D. I was reluctant to have another child because I still felt I wanted to go another direction with my career, but we decided to have another child in 2008, when the oldest was already 9. While the decision was mutual, certainly she had more motivation to have another child than myself.
So, when do you make the call to accept life for what it is, and just "be" in it? I'm never satisfied with doing "enough", and I certainly don't think I've done enough yet. I want more, and bigger. I'm not motivated by more things (bigger house, car, stuff, etc) as much as I am to find the place where I am most successful. I'm motivated by the need to feel successful. Appreciate your thoughtful, mature responses. :td:
